I think we're just on about the same thing, but with different ideas of how to go about it. We want way more consequences to pile up, I just don't feel like his identity being revealed to everyone will be the best choice in the long run. After the initial shock (although Aunt May and Ned already knew and we kiiiinda know MJ knew all along, she's even said as much in interviews) I just can't imagine anywhere close to what Spider-Man was all about anymore. Flash would be even more of a loser, Peter would be the most popular kid in school, his teacher would for sure give him more leeway when he breaks the rules, etc. Hell if anything, I'd just picture an Iron Man 2 redux if anything were to happen (and Iron Man 3 actually). We've already seen stories where everyone knows who the masked hero is in the MCU with Iron Man.
I feel like Tony Stark in general has gotten in the way of what makes Spider-Man interesting in general (there is no way he'll ever have money issues). My only hope, and it seems like I'm gonna be right, is Tony Stark will serve as the Uncle Ben for this Peter Parker and he'll finally have that emotional and personal motivation to be Spider-Man that was severly lacking in Homecoming. Though... so much of that struggle will be gone if everyone just knows who he is.