Eh, kind of mixed on this. I did think the kid was annoying and obnoxious, though the turning point for me wasn't him telling his mom he wishes it was her but instead when he lies saying there were no messages and then it just got worse when he actually went to the local electronics store and manages to buy the exact same machine and take the other one. THEN, later when he and his mom start to connect, she states the thing she misses the most was hearing his voice. Does the kid fess up and at least play the first couple of messages? No? WHY THE FUCK NOT? At the very least he could've given her the option!
I also had a problem with Tom Hanks. I know it's a small part but everything about his performance, and his relationship with his son, came across as completely contrived. The shoulder shrug, the oxymoron battle, etc. That said, with the same screenwriter (adapting the novel) and director, I can't imagine any other actor making it better.
As for Max von Sydow, so he got an Oscar nomination because he didn't speak? Is that the criteria now or was it the year for silent film? If so, I sure as hell wish the kid didn't speak and instead spoke only with cards. Anyway, Sydow I suppose was fine but I hardly found it to be anything special.
Oh, and Sandra Bullock... I think I was more annoyed with the character rather than her performance. So she spends the movie absent and when she is on screen, depressed. Ok, fair enough. But then the twist (of sorts) was that she knew what Oskar was up to and went on the journey as well (either ahead of him or just behind). So, was her over depressed mood just for show and if so, why? Also, she admitted that she waited up for him to get home hoping nothing had happened to him. Great parenting, there. Sure, he needed to work through some things but oh, I don't know, perhaps he could've worked through it in therapy rather than going into a city that, apparently in this movie, at its worst only have mean people who yell. No pedophiles. No child murderers. Nothing to worry about...
Then there's the plot itself. Yeah, it seems to have no point because of the key but that was the MacGuffin, a device to further other goals, which here was for Oskar to get out into the world more and meet new people. But even on that front it makes for a vastly uninteresting movie even if the kid wasn't annoying...
All that said, I don't know, there were moments, brief as they might've been, that were good. I liked Jeffrey Wright's brief appearance and kind of wish the movie was about him and the relationship with his father rather than the kid and his. That one big scene between the two was probably the best of the movie but sadly, too little, far too late.
**¼/*****, (C-, 4.4/10, 1.75/4)